Missing the z's


Don't you think as a mum that one of the most asked questions you get is, 'do you have a good sleeper?' The issue of sleeping occupies so many of us when our kids are young, I think I pretty much became obsessed with how much each of my kids was sleeping. I remember when my oldest (now 7) was a baby. He started off beautifully, very textbook, then at around 5 months he wasn't so great, yes I know now that was the 5 month sleep regression. I absolutely freaked out and went to numerous health nurses. It was probably only around 2 months of this before he bounced back and was my perfect sleeper again, but it felt like forever. I was weighing so much pressure on myself to be the perfect mum (I thought this existed).

My next child, was and still is a brilliant sleeper. The only girl in our family, I think she tires herself out so much throughout the day that she just drops at night, never wakes up and never refuses sleep.

Fast forward another year and boy was I in for a rude shock. I thought I had motherhood nailed by now and just knew I'd have another great sleeper. Wrong! My littlest man came along and to cope I did everything deemed 'wrong'. Fed him to sleep, co-slept you name it. Its called 'managing'. Very quickly I was taught a lesson about never judging others and their methods. Motherhood is about doing the best you can.

How many is right?

The most common question I get asked is, 'how did you find the change from 2 to 3 kids?' To be honest the question throws me because in my opinion each families coping mechanisms are different. Each family has different stresses, different set ups in place to make life easier or a bit more challenging. For instance, when my littlest came along, on paper it seemed like a scary prospect, having a husband who was working away and a 3 and 1 year old already at home. However, looking back, I wasn't working, didn't have a huge amount of money stresses, had a car that was super easy to navigate a few kids, prams etc. and had my mum living downstairs from us always on hand to help out or throw a load of washing on for me.

Now, my kiddos are 7, 5 and 4 (plus my partners son who is 7) and life is manic! The kids side of things is pretty easy, I'm pretty blessed to have kids that are fantastic at entertaining themselves when they need to. But now, I'm working full time, plus my side hustle, studying and racing around between various sporting and social commitments that the kids have. Our life is crazy sometimes, I wouldn't have it any other way of course, but it's no walk in the park.

So now when I'm asked about how it is with three kids, I like to throw the question back at the person and ask about their situation. Do you have support at home or outside of the home? Are you working? Don't be as concerned about the close proximity in age that your children will be, think more about external factors instead.

And if you're pregnant, good luck! I love my children dearly, but I'm pretty pleased that my child rearing days are over!



Newcastle Artist  Mitch Revs

Newcastle Artist Mitch Revs

As the weather heats up it’s great to slip, slop, slap and pack the kids and the dogs in the car to head to the beach. We love it because Vitamin D in reasonable doses is so good for your mental health, especially as a Mumma who can often feel low when faced with hours on end inside the house, it tires out the kids so they sleep and it’s free.

If you’d like an alternative to Newcastle and Merewether Baths read on.

1. Thong Tree Beach, Swansea Heads

This beach is so brilliant. It often has not a soul on it and it’s not rough so the kids don’t feel intimidated plus there are heaps of super cool rock pools and your four legged friend is allowed to come too.

2. Pelican Foreshore, Pelican

Pelican is really beautiful and a really down to earth place to hang out. There’s usually plenty of parking and it’s calm so the kids can just paddle around. Watch the current though it can be really strong sometimes in certain parts so take care. Your puppy is also invited and there’s heaps of room to set up a tent or an umbrella.

3. Spoon Rocks Bay, Caves Beach

4. Beach Road, Wangi

5. Grannies Pool, Blacksmiths

Other cool spots (pun intended)

  • Gap Creek Falls, Watagans

  • Dobell Park, Wangi

  • Booragul